I think Marcus Aurelius provided the answer to your closing question, "Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." We can't control others, but we can be an example of integrity ourselves.
Alcibades' poor wife tried to limit his impact on her and couldn't. Thankfully, women are not considered their husband's property in law anymore, and so there is a way of escape. But it would be better not to be married to such a man in the first place. Alcibades' wife wouldn't have had much of a choice, marriages were arranged by families in ancient Athens. But modern women do, and as a result, there is a small, but vociferous group of scoundrel men who, feeling cheated of their idea of a properly submissive wife, want to return to the ideas of forced marriage and wife-as-property.
Bonus points for mentioning Cole Porter. There's the rub: changing our wills, not just changing our minds.
I think Marcus Aurelius provided the answer to your closing question, "Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." We can't control others, but we can be an example of integrity ourselves.
🏺 Joel you have posted another review 💫✍🏼 for the ages: don't be that guy. Keep'm coming.
Alcibades' poor wife tried to limit his impact on her and couldn't. Thankfully, women are not considered their husband's property in law anymore, and so there is a way of escape. But it would be better not to be married to such a man in the first place. Alcibades' wife wouldn't have had much of a choice, marriages were arranged by families in ancient Athens. But modern women do, and as a result, there is a small, but vociferous group of scoundrel men who, feeling cheated of their idea of a properly submissive wife, want to return to the ideas of forced marriage and wife-as-property.
Often entitlement feelings are muted by mockery- except with the ones who can't take a joke.